Wedding Registry Etiquette: The Do’s And Don’ts

When registering for wedding gifts, it is best to balance classic etiquette with modern ideas. While it is not acceptable to include gift registries with the official wedding invitations, today’s practices allow sharing the registry URL links in shower invitations and on your wedding website. You can avoid registry faux pas with a bit of forethought and careful planning.

• Do read the store’s entire registry agreement to ensure that its terms will meet your needs.
• Do recognize that while some guests prefer shopping in person, others may prefer shopping online. Register at no more than three vendors and be sure at least one of them has a showroom near where most of your guests live. Also offer a registry which allows telephone and electronic orders.
• Do add variety in your selections by including traditional and non-traditional gift categories from individual items to matched sets.
• Do choose items which represent your preferences as a couple as opposed to two singles.
• Do consider your guests’ budgets and let your choices fall in varying price ranges. Include items from $25 up to several hundred dollars. Remember that some of your guests may forego the registry and shop for a more personal gift.
• Do make the number of your gift selections greater than the number of wedding invitees so guests have plenty of options.

• Do not announce registry details yourself unless asked directly. Instead share them with your attendants and your parents.
• Do not select fad electronics and gadgets which will be obsolete within a few months. Be realistic and avoid picking items you know you’ll never use.
• Do not include items like clothes or personal hygiene products.
• Do not establish registries at similar stores. At most, designate one department store, one home products store, and one kitchen and bath store.
• Do not restrict your guests to only gifts. Consider using sites which allow guests to donate to charities or worthwhile causes.
• Do not use gifts until after the wedding!